How to stop school & workplace bullying is more important than ever. It was bad enough with school bullies, but now we have adult workplace bullying and cyber bullying. As the world gets louder, shy empaths left behind suffer more. It doesn’t help that we have newspapers that bully celebrities to commit suicide, and politicians that bully each other, jeered on by backbenchers.
The best way to help: is simply to get out of the situation. Parents may consider switching schools or home-schooling. For workplace bullies, consider changing your job. It’s not always possible, but lifestyle changes can help. Don’t support the culture: don’t gossip, don’t read media that encourages nastiness, and switch off TV bullies. Be discerning with who you spend time. Only keep company with nice people! And find help if in a domestic abuse situation.
- Ask your school to install Olweus Bullying Prevention Program. This effective program (invented by a Scandinavian psychologist) brings zero tolerance to bullying in schools. For schools unable to afford the program, you can buy the program (book and DVD).
- For work, contact National Bullying Helpline. Children can find help by calling Childline (any type of bullying: racist, homophobic, cyber, faith, disabilities or just because you’re shy).
- ReThink is a free app created by an Indian teen, who was upset at teen suicides, due to bullying. It reads ‘offensive content’ that asks the reader not to send it (93% don’t, preventing suicides).
- Bark App costs £50 to £100 per year (depending on age, with a free trial). Created with youth, child psychologists, law enforcement and digital media – this non-intrusive app monitors texts, emails, YouTube and over 30 social networks, so you can block certain areas of concern. In the US, it has prevent many suicides and over 50 school shootings.
- How to Beat Bullying is a short but essential book of 12 essential hacks to deal with school bullies, cyber-bullies, being left out, ‘frenemies’ and peer pressure. Learn how to ask for help, how to stay safe online and improve your self-esteem, if you’ve been bullied in the past. Also read Autism, Bullying and Me and How to Stop Homophobic & Biphobic Bullying.
- Man Down is a book on mental health for men and boys. The author (who was severely bullied for 2 years at school) recently met up with his former bully (turns out he had been tracking the author for years on the net, guilty of the effect he’d had). The experience was healing for both.
Be an encourager. The world has plenty of critics already. Dave Willis
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